36 Master, which is the great commandment in the law? 37 Jesus said unto him, “Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. 38 This is the first and great commandment. 39 And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself. 40 On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets.” (King James Version, Matthew 22:36-40)
How can you essentially love another before you truly love yourself? It all starts within yourself.
You know the old saying about putting your oxygen mask first when faced with an emergency. In order to be an effective caregiver, you need to lovingly care for yourself, as well. Here are a few how-to tips:
Letting Go of Guilt
The connotation that you must be self-sacrificing just seemed to go hand-in-hand with being a caregiver.
Being a better caregiver means taking better care of yourself
Treat Yourself as You Would Treat Your Best Friend
Watch Your Self-Talk – The next time you want to say something negative or unfavorable to yourself – ask yourself this question: “Would I say that to my best friend when he/she is down?” Chances are the answer is a resounding “No!” You would not talk to your best friend the way you sometimes speak to yourself.
If you want to feel good as a caregiver, you must feel good about yourself first.
Treat Yourself: Plain and Simple – You do not have to do without, sacrifice or go without in order to be admired, revered or honored as a caregiver. As a matter of fact, you will be an excellent role model for those around you if you treat yourself once-in-a-while.
Treat yourself to some time off
Go for a walk in fresh air
Indulge in a favorite ice cream flavor or one that you haven’t tried yet
Buy yourself something just because or just for fun
Make certain to visit with nature
Learn how to ask before you explode and are viewed as demanding
And, in the end, give yourself a warm hug knowing that not only are you fulfilling an obligation of family, but that you are doing God’s will as he has chosen you to do. Now, that’s something worth loving about yourself. If God thinks you’re strong enough, then so should you.
What have you done lately for yourself? Please, be generous, and share your ideas with other caregivers so you can be the wonderful contribution that you are…leave a comment and/or a suggestion.